The Anti-Overwhelm Checklist
A science-backed way to decide what's worth your time – and what's not
Say no with confidence (and zero guilt)
so you'll have room to say YES to what truly matters.
You feel a weird sense of relief when someone cancels plans—and that’s the most free you’ve felt all week?
I was running myself ragged to live up to my reputation as a good worker, good mom, good Partner.
I was overcommitted, overwhelmed, and constantly chasing the next achievement just to prove I was “enough.”
Then I had a kid. I realized I couldn’t keep up the relentless pace I’d been living—and honestly, I didn’t want to. But everywhere I turned, the messages told me I had to give 100% in every area of my life: work, family, community, self-care (oh, and look fabulous doing it). The more I tried, the deeper into the cult of productive I fell.
Pause before taking on something new (no more asking yourself "why am I doing this again")
Harness the power of your emotions (why a "gut check" works)
Consider your capacity (you may have the same 24 hours as Beyonce, but you don't have her entourage)
Balance the pros & cons of saying "yes" using key strategies taken from decades of clinical science
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